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When Being a Friend is Hard


I've had some major stress outs lately. Work has been busy (not complaining, just saying), there's been something to do almost every evening after coming home from work, I haven't had a chance to think about anything other than coming home and sleeping at the end of a long day.

That being said, some of my friendships have gone by the wayside. Not because I mean for them to, just because I simply haven't had the time to think about chatting with someone after I've spent the whole day, well, chatting with people.

See, in my profession, I'm talking to people almost all day every day. I'm a receptionist/aide at a Physical Therapy clinic and I absolutely love everything (most days) about my job. It keeps me busy, I get to know a lot of people, and I'm never bored.

That being said, when I get home from a long day, I just don't really feel like talking to people anymore. I want to veg on the couch with my dinner and a show on TV or a book in my hand. The last thing I want to do is pick up my phone and text someone.

BUT. That doesn't make it right. And because of that, I've been a pretty bad friend lately. I haven't always replied to texts in a timely manner, I fall asleep in the midst of a conversation with someone, I just...check out when I shouldn't.

I know it's not just me. I know I'm not the only one who's almost too stressed/busy/etc to text someone back at the end of a long day.

So, here are a couple goals for me in the next few weeks to try to get back into the routine of chatting with friends even when it's hard. I've tried to put myself in their shoes, and I know it feels like I'm ignoring them because I don't want to talk. But the honest truth is, I just don't think about it. It's seriously not them, it's me.

  1. Reply to texts, even when I'm exhausted.
    This isn't always easy for me because sometimes picking up my phone and staring at a screen (after staring at one for 10 hours at works) is really hard. But I know that someone is waiting on a response and they're important. 
  2. Remember who's trying to get in contact with me.
    These are friends. They are not trying to make my life more burdensome or cause me any grief, they literally just want to talk to me. 
  3. To go off the point above, they just want to talk to me.
    How awesome is that? I may be busy and not have time to think straight half the time, but these are the people in my life I'm thankful for - my friends. They will listen to my problems and help me through them.
This is a tough situation for me - one I'm working through slowly.

Please know, if you're one of the friends that has been feeling neglected by me lately, that I'm not doing this on purpose, and I love you. But also know that I'm doing the best I can under the circumstances and am trying slowly to work this out. 

And if you're in the same boat as me, know that I understand. I work three different jobs, I go to church functions as able, I probably spread myself a little too thin like most of us. So I know what you're going through.

It's gonna be okay. <3 

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