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Being Honest About Our Feelings


They say that honesty is the best policy, and I try to live my life in an honest and straightforward way. However, one of my personal flaws is that I am often not honest about my emotions because I would rather stuff them away in a hole and ignore them forever. (See here.)

Trust me, this is not really a good thing--it's a huge flaw. But it's also a self-defense mechanism, where I think that if I hide the emotions away long enough, they'll disappear and then they won't be able to hurt me.

That isn't the case. Often, my feelings blow up in my face--and the face of others--instead. What started out as an effort to prevent hurt and harm ends up causing hurt and harm regardless, when whatever I was upset about finally builds to a terrifying crescendo, bubbles to the surface, and explodes onto everyone in its path. (It's not pretty.)

I do have good intentions, but the results are less so. And it's something I'd like to stop from happening (especially after the 400th time my friend had to pry out of me what I was so upset about, and then the 400th time I melted down on my mom. But I digress). 

So, starting now, I'm going to try to live more honestly, to allow myself to feel, and to not avoid my emotions like the bubonic plague. It's going to be hard, but I need to get to a better place where I'm not a constant emotional volcano about to erupt. That means being gentle with myself, but also dealing with my emotions as they happen and being honest about what I feel, no matter what.

I'd like to encourage you to do the same. Even if you're not quite as emotionally repressed as yours truly, it isn't a bad idea to be honest about how you are feeling, no matter how messy your emotions are. 

You are allowed to feel however you feel, and you don't have to stuff it all down. 

Take some time to just sit with your feelings and be completely honest about what they are, then figure out how to process through those emotions in a healthy way. It's up to you how you do that. Journal them out, listen to music, or talk to a friend. It will help, especially once you decide to be your own ally and help yourself through this emotional turbulence called life. Be gentle with yourself, and remember that it's going to be okay, just let yourself be exactly who you are and feel exactly how you feel.

Now, dear Sky, the hardest part: it's time to heed your own advice.

Let's aim for honesty about our emotions together. Here's to a new month, a new year, new horizons, and a new emotional awareness. We've got this.

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